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bladesparkI'm probably going to be posting a lot until I finish the Violent Acres archives, because there's a lot to read about in there, and a lot to think about too. Take this article for example.
Basically, it says that we complain a lot, but most of us don't actually do anything. We say we're trapped or stuck or can't change it. Gas prices are high, nothing we can do but grumble, we can't change the price. Well, no we can't, but we can walk. Take the bus. Carpool. We can do something.
A little more than a year ago I was having a nervous breakdown. I was in college, one semester away from finally getting a degree after ten years of on again off again schooling. I was almost done. I needed that degree, right? All that money and effort would be wasted if I didn't have the degree. And to get the degree I had to not transfer schools again, and I had to work a job so I could pay tuition, and I had to live with my parents so I could afford to eat, and I was trapped with classes, a job, the pressure from my family to conform, and trying to do the things I wanted and loved to do, like make costumes, meant I had to take time I didn't really have, and just added to the stress.
I was stuck, right? I needed the job, I needed the degree, so I needed to stay with my parents, and the only thing I could give up was the free time stuff I loved. Right?
Well, no. I quit the job. Then I quit school, and then I moved to Oregon, knowing exactly four people in the entire state, three of them JJ and his parents, the other halfway across it anyhow.
And I have never been happier in my life than I am now.
So if you think you're trapped in an intolerable situation, you might want to re-think it. Do you really have no choice? Or have you just chosen to stay where you are? If the misery now is worth the payoff, then by all means stay where you're at, of course. I'm not saying everybody who hates school should quit it, or that everybody who doesn't like their job should quit. But don't say you have no choice. You do have a choice. You just made the decision that the misery of the hated job was worth the paycheck you get, that's all. You decided you'd rather pay $3.00 a gallon for gas than walk. That doesn't mean you didn't have options.
Basically, it says that we complain a lot, but most of us don't actually do anything. We say we're trapped or stuck or can't change it. Gas prices are high, nothing we can do but grumble, we can't change the price. Well, no we can't, but we can walk. Take the bus. Carpool. We can do something.
A little more than a year ago I was having a nervous breakdown. I was in college, one semester away from finally getting a degree after ten years of on again off again schooling. I was almost done. I needed that degree, right? All that money and effort would be wasted if I didn't have the degree. And to get the degree I had to not transfer schools again, and I had to work a job so I could pay tuition, and I had to live with my parents so I could afford to eat, and I was trapped with classes, a job, the pressure from my family to conform, and trying to do the things I wanted and loved to do, like make costumes, meant I had to take time I didn't really have, and just added to the stress.
I was stuck, right? I needed the job, I needed the degree, so I needed to stay with my parents, and the only thing I could give up was the free time stuff I loved. Right?
Well, no. I quit the job. Then I quit school, and then I moved to Oregon, knowing exactly four people in the entire state, three of them JJ and his parents, the other halfway across it anyhow.
And I have never been happier in my life than I am now.
So if you think you're trapped in an intolerable situation, you might want to re-think it. Do you really have no choice? Or have you just chosen to stay where you are? If the misery now is worth the payoff, then by all means stay where you're at, of course. I'm not saying everybody who hates school should quit it, or that everybody who doesn't like their job should quit. But don't say you have no choice. You do have a choice. You just made the decision that the misery of the hated job was worth the paycheck you get, that's all. You decided you'd rather pay $3.00 a gallon for gas than walk. That doesn't mean you didn't have options.
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