Okay, then.

[bladespark]

Made a post on Fetlife about my insecurity about feeling masculine, almost instantly got somebody all "Well hello, handsome" in my inbox.

When I never get anybody in my inbox.

Way to make it obvious that you read me pointing out a vulnerability and you instantly were on it like a shark on chum. You look like a predator, dude.

And maybe I wouldn't think that if it were a gay guy or a straight girl or anybody non-binary in any way, but he was a straight man, and I'm a trans man, so I am thinking he's bullshit in any case, the timing/phrasing was just the decorative little rabbit raisin on the shit cake.

Ugh.

Comments

[angelwolfy]

forgive me for barging in but I've had this EXACT sort of thing happen to me and it literally infuriates me because I know theres gonna be a boy or an enby out there who is gonna jump at the opportunity to be validated only to be fucked over and its Fucked Up
fuck em you dont need that shit in ur life !!!! That's Garbage bullshit to try and pull on you and if ur a dude ur a dude with or without these clowns!!!

[bladespark]

Yeah. Like, I instantly had my creep-dar going "bing!" at me, but a lot of people, especially younger ones and ones still exploring who they are (though I guess I'm doing that some) are *so* vulnerable to this kind of bullshit, and it actually pisses me off.

[liz_mo]

Hugs! I‘m sorry you have to deal with this crap in supposedly safe spaces.

[nimueth]

Those are some real big red flags, yeah. What's incredible is they almost always think they're being subtle and smooth.

[silveradept]

That's not okay for them to do. At all. And yet I'm sure they have enough of a success rate at it that they'll keep trying on someone else.