...but my brain is having thinky thoughts, and I am feeling too scattered to organize everything, even though it'll actually take like ten minutes. :P
I am thinking about names.
Goober child has a classmate named Aidan. (Aiden? I dunno.) This kid appears to be a girl, which annoys me even more than the trendiness of Aidan and its derivatives. It was a rare name when I picked it, with a backstory that meant something to me! And now it's not only everywhere, but the current usage leads people to misgender me! If I introduce myself as "Mike" or whatever, people go "Oh! Right! Guy!" But "Aidan" doesn't do that anymore and I kind of want to scream. IT WAS A MALE NAME WHEN I PICKED IT, GODDAMIT!!!!!!
Ahem.
Anyhow, the other thing about that, though, is that I turn around whenever the teacher calls this kid's name while I'm dropping off my kid at school, lol. I don't turn around for Stephanie quite as readily. There have always been other people named that around, it was pretty common when I was young. There was always another Stephanie, or at least another Tiffany, which sounds the same shouted across a playground, in my classes growing up. So I double checked before answering to it even before I ID'd as trans/as Aidan.
Now hearing Stephanie has that "...Oh, right, I guess that's me?" feel to it.
Which seems to be different from other trans-spectrum types. Most I know hate and loathe their dead name. I don't. It's just very secondary at this point.
Back in the day Stephanie was me, and Aidan was my favorite role-playing character and most comfortable online persona.
Now Aidan is me and Stephanie is my femme alter-ego and sometime writing pen name, since I can't go back and change my old books. I don't hate it, it's just less me than it used to be, that's all.
I'm just as glad, really. I know some people struggle with some pretty deep trauma on getting called by their deadname. Me, I just take a little longer to turn around and answer to it, that's all!
I am thinking about names.
Goober child has a classmate named Aidan. (Aiden? I dunno.) This kid appears to be a girl, which annoys me even more than the trendiness of Aidan and its derivatives. It was a rare name when I picked it, with a backstory that meant something to me! And now it's not only everywhere, but the current usage leads people to misgender me! If I introduce myself as "Mike" or whatever, people go "Oh! Right! Guy!" But "Aidan" doesn't do that anymore and I kind of want to scream. IT WAS A MALE NAME WHEN I PICKED IT, GODDAMIT!!!!!!
Ahem.
Anyhow, the other thing about that, though, is that I turn around whenever the teacher calls this kid's name while I'm dropping off my kid at school, lol. I don't turn around for Stephanie quite as readily. There have always been other people named that around, it was pretty common when I was young. There was always another Stephanie, or at least another Tiffany, which sounds the same shouted across a playground, in my classes growing up. So I double checked before answering to it even before I ID'd as trans/as Aidan.
Now hearing Stephanie has that "...Oh, right, I guess that's me?" feel to it.
Which seems to be different from other trans-spectrum types. Most I know hate and loathe their dead name. I don't. It's just very secondary at this point.
Back in the day Stephanie was me, and Aidan was my favorite role-playing character and most comfortable online persona.
Now Aidan is me and Stephanie is my femme alter-ego and sometime writing pen name, since I can't go back and change my old books. I don't hate it, it's just less me than it used to be, that's all.
I'm just as glad, really. I know some people struggle with some pretty deep trauma on getting called by their deadname. Me, I just take a little longer to turn around and answer to it, that's all!