Meh

[bladespark]

I am blah today.

Part of it is work overload. I'm looking at what I need to do over the next couple of days, and it's a pretty heavy load. Weirdly enough I wish I could get the crossover scripts so that I could have a legitimate excuse to put off some of it and do something else instead.

But the other part of it is just the lingering after affects of yesterday's drama.

Somebody told me they hated me.

A total stranger.

I'd never spoken to him, never done anything to him. Solely because of a label I happen to bear, he hates me. He won't even say why, or what it is about that label that's worthy of hatred. And he hasn't suffered any consequences for spouting his hatred in public, the moderator, on finally entering the scene, said "please leave furry hating out of it." That's it.

I don't know how many of you reading this have ever been here, but I find I don't like this place, where a total stranger has said they hate me, for no better reason than that I bear a certain label. I don't like it at all. And yet I am forced to be here. I can't do anything about his attitude. I can't do anything about the label. I can't keep him from saying he hates me. I can't impose any consequnces on him for it. I just get to be hated, and he gets to go on his merry way.

It sucks.

Comments

[starkruzr.livejournal.com]

Personally, I'm anti-censorship. Honestly, who cares what he says? He's a total stranger and his opinion counts for exactly zero.

You are far too cool to worry about random hate from some nobody :)

[harliquinnraver.livejournal.com]

if that loser wants to waste his life hating people without knowing them, then so be it. i say hes missing out on an opportunity to know a talented, smart, fantastic girl with many unique hobbies.

but you know what? its HIS problem. let him miss out. its his loss. ;) the guy has issues obviously. hes broken, not you. and hate is a disease. it festers inside you and poisons you. its not pleasant at all and if he wants to live a life of hate and destroy himself, why should you care? we cant please all the people all the time and honestly, who would want to?

are you happy with who you are? thats all that matters.

[graydown.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I've been there. It hurts. There are people who have never met me who hate me, people who think the world would be a better place if I and my family were dead. What can I do? Nothing.

Yeah, it sucks.

[xianghua.livejournal.com]

*offers some sticks with nails that she's been using to prod a really annoying liar on a dog board with*

[rabbitsystem.livejournal.com]

Being hated...yeah. Being hated sucks.

[thetommydodd.livejournal.com]

He's free to think what he likes and say what he thinks. BUT everyone else is free to draw their own conclusions about his character from what he says.

[sphix.livejournal.com]

*hugs* know that for every person that hates you, there's 20 more that love you, Blade. Keep your chin up? ^_^

[jfoxfire.livejournal.com]

big hugs to you.i like to everyone get to know me.
i am really nice to talk too.

[tabeal.livejournal.com]

I know what its like to be hated, and I'll be praying for you and especially him. As a Christian I pray for people who hate me always, because I always know that people who hate me, God won't have mercy on, when the time comes. We all have to share the God's pain. So I encourage you to press on and love him anyway, as Christ loved us, and to forgive him, as Christ forgave us.

Like I said, I pray he'll see the light, and hate no more. And I'll pray for you always.

[silveradept]

Someone who judges in such a manner without actually getting to know you, based solely on something you identify with is not worth the angst over. I know, easier said than done, because we want to be appealing to other people, but really, would you trust the judgment of someone who said they hated someone based solely on one element of their personality?

Mr T said it best...

[aazhie.livejournal.com]

He's free to think what he likes and say what he thinks. BUT everyone else is free to draw their own conclusions about his character from what he says.


*hugs* know that for every person that hates you, there's 20 more that love you, Blade. Keep your chin up? ^_^

I know what its like to be hated, and I'll be praying for you and especially him. As a Christian I pray for people who hate me always, because I always know that people who hate me, God won't have mercy on, when the time comes. We all have to share the God's pain. So I encourage you to press on and love him anyway, as Christ loved us, and to forgive him, as Christ forgave us.

Like I said, I pray he'll see the light, and hate no more. And I'll pray for you always


can't say it much better. he's an ingnorant jerk and I pity the fool!

he obviously CAN'T hate YOU form a logical standpoint, just furries. And that makes him really pathetic. I bet few folks online or in real life would post/say such nice things about him as those comments i copied, for a myriad of reasons, one of which being he's a hateful ass, and the second being he porbably doesn't have many/ANY friends.
His "hating you" ( which is in no way actually hating YOU as a person ) is probably the cry of a very lonely and sad person. You can think about it as him needing symphathy more than you becasue you are a good, reasonable, kind, and generally cool person i would like to know, whereas he probably has friends who are just as shallow and immature as he. If he has any at all.
Not to say that you don't deserve a nice hug, because it sucks a lot for some jerk to ruin even a minute of you day with such hurtful things, but I bet you his life would seem empty and hopeless if we could copmare his to yours.

You CAN do something about his attitude, you can forgive him and ask god/karma/yourself/whatever to help him become a not spiteful angry person. You can allow yourself to grow a thick skin as far as your personal ego goes, but still remain empathetic to others and not bitter by other's poison. His attitude isn't the problem, it's a symptom of something deeper. Whether that is pettiness, loneliness, immaturity or whatever, just understand that his jab at you is aimed at furs in genral, and that sometimes, sterotypes about some groups (not racial or religious, just "hobbyist") are perpetuated by idiots who make everyone look bad, including you and I. People with real wisdom will see through this sterotype and other stereotypes (your religion, your other hobbies, what you look like, your gender) and see the real you, unless you allow yourself to become as shallow and sterotypical as the genral public believes us to be. I personally prefer not to bring up the furry thing unless it is relevant or someone asks me about it because I know i will be grouped into the larger stereotype and I would rather let people get to know me first. But if they find out, I know, and YOU know and MY FRIENDS and those who matter to me know that isn't me.


you rock! don't let the jerk get you down! *hugs!*