Interesting

[bladespark]

I've neverquite been in one of these (and yes males do this too, but it's more typical of females) but I suspect a few of the guys reading this may be able to recognize somebody they know here.

Borderline Personality Disorder girlfriend.

That site in general has a lot of interesting stuff on it. If anybody reading fings that first bit quite familiar, you may want to look into the rest of it.

Comments

[malakim2099.livejournal.com]

You know, that reminds me a lot of my ex-wife.

And that's not meant to be flippant either. It REALLY reminds me of my ex-wife. Oy.

[heffboom-konijn.livejournal.com]

very interesting find. the thing I wonder now is if im like that or not? self awareness for this kind of thing seems kind of hard, and what harder is if I am like that, what can I do to prevent myself from going to the edge.

kinda tripy ^ ^

[tarathene.livejournal.com]

Wow, that was a lot of analogies/metaphors. I have a girlfriend who is, and knows she, and we know she is (or she was diagnosed as such at least) and it does take a lot of work to make a relationship with someone like that work, and it -only- seems to work when they get help for it. It's a lasting thing in them, and that they and others need to keep an eye on, but it's something that doesn't have to be a permanent issue thankfully.

[rahball.livejournal.com]

Yikes, I think maybe that could be what's ailing my brother's girlfriend!

knowledge is power

[aazhie.livejournal.com]

one of my friends was bipolar without knowing it and her life was a mess! they had treatment for depression but not the real problem. When it was finally suggested by their new therapist, things got so much better for everyone in their life.

personality disorders are so much harder to deal with because they are not neccessily biological. They seem to be like abusive behavior, abusive people tend to come from abusive childhoods, and manipulative childhoods can sometimes (SOMETIMES) create a manupulative adulthood.
I like that the article is pretty basic but gets the information across. Down to earth writing with non-psychologists in mind, but it also manages to prevent too much confusion with "normal" human beahviors. Most everyone gets clingy or pissed off or needs an emotional liferaft in their lifetime and some of us need more help than others, but there is a difference between actually needing the help and craving the attention.
I think it is great that some people are able to mature out of this, as tarathene is commenting. i was always under the impression is was almost impossible to break out of the behavior. I assume that it is, but only if one doesn't want to in the first place or isn't educated about how to properly treat others in a relationship. I guess the will to change is not very helpful if you don't know how to start the change!


and i think guys can do this, but it seems like men in our society can become less clingy and have more issues with intimacy. i think antisocial disorder is a more male dominant disorder, while borderline is more suited to the social upbringing of females. heck, it even fits in with many misconceptions women have about guys/relationships: they only want sex, you have to use sex to trap a guy, they are there to take care of you, guys are dumber in some ways that women, and worthy of contempt (yay feminazis), you need someone to be with because both of you miserable is better than being alone!

[reaverta.livejournal.com]

The really fascinating thing is when I look at this, it doesn't sound like my ex.

There you go. I now have confirmed evidence that there is a version of crazy that Toastergirl wasn't.

(*snicker*)