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Jan. 12th, 2010
If I get one more person say I'm their "friend" when I've never even had a single non-business conversation with them I'm going to bite them!
"Allows you to IM me" does not = friend.
"Lets you have access to my contact info" REALLY does not = friend, since I let anybody have that, even people I absolutely hate. It's flipping public information.
Even "Will talk to you" doesn't = friend, because I'll talk to most people, unless they manage to really piss me off. But I think this is going to start becomming a blocking offense. I am SICK to death of people assuming some kind of friendship when they have not even bothered to try the tiniest and simplest efforts to have a real friendship. If you can't answer the question "What are some of their likes and dislikes" for example, you are not a friend! I've you've never asked "How has your day gone?" and actually listened and cared about the answer, you are not a friend!
Friends are people who know each other, and who care about each other. If all you've done is IM stupid memes and random links, that's not friendship. Watching my livejournal is not friendship, nevermind the word that lj uses for it. And looking to me for your emotional needs but not giving a crap about my needs is also not friendship, it's leeching. If you want to be my friend, you need to actually give a damn about my feelings, and not just want to bask in the glow of knowing a fursuit maker, or a female on the internet, or whatever other reason you have to be hanging around. I don't actually mind having "fans" who follow me just to bask in the glow of knowing a fursuit maker, I should add. Many of you have proved to be nice people, but if you don't even know me well enough to know about my personal life, then you're not actually my friends, sorry no. (I do mind the ones whose interest in me has to do with my gender. I'm flipping MARRIED QUIT HITTING ON ME. And some of you reading this had no idea I was married, didn't you? If you didn't know that, you're definitely not a friend. :P)
Grrrrrr.
I am making this rant public because somebody might actually read it and get a clue. If you find yourself offended by this rant, YOU are probably one of the idiots currently pissing me off with this behavior.
"Allows you to IM me" does not = friend.
"Lets you have access to my contact info" REALLY does not = friend, since I let anybody have that, even people I absolutely hate. It's flipping public information.
Even "Will talk to you" doesn't = friend, because I'll talk to most people, unless they manage to really piss me off. But I think this is going to start becomming a blocking offense. I am SICK to death of people assuming some kind of friendship when they have not even bothered to try the tiniest and simplest efforts to have a real friendship. If you can't answer the question "What are some of their likes and dislikes" for example, you are not a friend! I've you've never asked "How has your day gone?" and actually listened and cared about the answer, you are not a friend!
Friends are people who know each other, and who care about each other. If all you've done is IM stupid memes and random links, that's not friendship. Watching my livejournal is not friendship, nevermind the word that lj uses for it. And looking to me for your emotional needs but not giving a crap about my needs is also not friendship, it's leeching. If you want to be my friend, you need to actually give a damn about my feelings, and not just want to bask in the glow of knowing a fursuit maker, or a female on the internet, or whatever other reason you have to be hanging around. I don't actually mind having "fans" who follow me just to bask in the glow of knowing a fursuit maker, I should add. Many of you have proved to be nice people, but if you don't even know me well enough to know about my personal life, then you're not actually my friends, sorry no. (I do mind the ones whose interest in me has to do with my gender. I'm flipping MARRIED QUIT HITTING ON ME. And some of you reading this had no idea I was married, didn't you? If you didn't know that, you're definitely not a friend. :P)
Grrrrrr.
I am making this rant public because somebody might actually read it and get a clue. If you find yourself offended by this rant, YOU are probably one of the idiots currently pissing me off with this behavior.
I get the feeling I may end up getting a few commissions for these.
Moondancer, and a breezie. :D
Moondancer is a little less than a foot tall, so she's pretty big. The breezie is not quite 5 inches. Moondancer's tail is just a tiny bit fragile, I can't just toss her on the sprite pile. I think if I do another I'm going to re-design the tail so it touches the back legs, which will be much more stable.
Also, I've come up with a formula for consistently pricing these things. Which formula results in Moondancer being $12, if you wanted a similar sprite, and the breezie being $2. (Based on the number of beads. Remember your math, doubling the height squares the area, so the price goes up FAST as they get bigger.)
Moondancer, and a breezie. :D
Moondancer is a little less than a foot tall, so she's pretty big. The breezie is not quite 5 inches. Moondancer's tail is just a tiny bit fragile, I can't just toss her on the sprite pile. I think if I do another I'm going to re-design the tail so it touches the back legs, which will be much more stable.
Also, I've come up with a formula for consistently pricing these things. Which formula results in Moondancer being $12, if you wanted a similar sprite, and the breezie being $2. (Based on the number of beads. Remember your math, doubling the height squares the area, so the price goes up FAST as they get bigger.)